Shekinah Leigh runs her own business on the Gold Coast, she facilitates women’s groups & workshops and provides bodywork & online courses for honouring & activating the divine feminine essence in all women.
She is a certified Massage Therapist, Yoga Teacher and Childbirth Mentor with many years of experience facilitating women’s circles, women’s rites of passage, sacred ceremony and birth work, Shekinah is an explorer of the feminine and holds a strong and safe space for transformation & healing to take place at a deep & cellular level. By integrating her chosen paths of Hawaiian Shamanism, Native American Medicine Teachings and the Ancient Yogic Traditions, it enables her to provide a comprehensive and holistic approach to healing our relationship with the feminine.
As a mother, lover, daughter & friend, she understands the many challenges that face women today. She is completely devoted to supporting women to access, embrace, embody & shine as a radiant and sensual woman every day…
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Throughout October I ran a ‘Sharing the Love’ Competition.
It was designed to let the amazing women in our lives know just how much we love and appreciate them!
There were lots of prizes to win, including a massage, herbal teas and essential oils. During this time, my good friend Krystle also decided that October was ‘Honouring the Feminine’ month and so we decided to collaborate and do some Facebook Lives together. This was a HUGE step for me, as an introvert I have always struggled with being in front of the camera, much preferring to be behind the scenes. However, as a woman who is fully committed to my business and its ongoing success, I have needed to step up and find ways that I can share and express the work that I do, so that it feels genuine and authentic for me!These Facebook Lives were a way for me to not only share my work, but to also connect with amazing women and to stretch my comfort zone.
They have been a GREAT success! I have learnt so much about myself during the past month and one of the most important things is how when you are speaking your truth, when you are walking the talk, when you are choosing to be authentic, then you really can’t get it wrong. Even the mistakes add value because it is REAL, it is true and it is through this understanding that I have found a new confidence in sharing my message and my medicine with the world. I don’t know if I will ever LOVE being in front of the camera, but feeling like I am still me and not some ‘perform on demand’ circus animal has brought me great relief!
If you have an interest in knowing more about:
The benefits of Massage & Bodywork – physically, emotionally and spiritually, than please watch Episode 1
The benefits of participating in the SHAKTI Girls ‘coming of age’ Circles, or sitting in circle with other women, than please watch Episode 2
The benefits of seeing the ‘Birthing Journey’ as a rite of passage and how it helps women heal and integrate the birthing experience, than please watch Episode 3
The benefits of different womens products, from breast care, hormonal well-being and post natal support, than please watch Episode 4
I am happy to answer any questions that you may have, and thank you all profusely for your on-going support.
I have spent decades on a spiritual path, one that has led me into many different forms of shamanism, ancient traditions and sacred medicine.
I have been a drum chief at healing ceremonies, was apprenticed to a Native American Shamanic Tradition for a long time, I have run Sweat lodges, and Sacred Ceremonies, I have so many shamanic tools in my tool belt, some I use often, some infrequently. I have a daily spiritual practice (Sadhana), I run a business that is based on healing on a physical, spiritual and emotional level and yet I have recently discovered that I still can’t fully own this mystical, magical, shamanic side of me.
I have realised that I have been de-valuing it, disowning it and glossing over it because I was worried that;
People would think I was way too weird and out there
The traditions that I no longer work with would take issue with me sharing what I have learned and attack me, or make me feel like I am doing something wrong or disrespectful
Whenever someone labels themselves as a Shaman, or Medicine Woman, Priestess, Witch or ‘whatever’, it sounds really freakin arrogant and makes me cringe on the inside
But what do you do if your work, your calling, does incorporate shamanic tools and practices? What happens when you dive into other cultures and you feel their traditions resonate with your soul, with your cells, your DNA, every fibre of your being? How do you own this mystical and magical side of yourself without sounding like a douche bag?????
Even friends who have told me that they see me as any of these above names/terms (yes I’m really not owning it), has always caused me to deny it profusely, or feel inadequate and fraudulent that they might even think I could aspire to the levels that these names symbolise. For me, on too many occasions these labels are being used to jump onto the latest new age band wagon, they come very close to crossing the line of cultural appropriation, if not wiping out that line out completely and I believe that real Shamans, Wise Woman, Medicine Women, Priestesses, Witches have had a deep calling, a long journey and many years of discipline, practice and immersion to be able to really embody what it means to be that!
Guess what? That describes me exactly! I have a deep calling, have had a long journey (that continues), and many many years of self-discipline, practice and immersion on my spiritual path. I haven’t stayed with one particular tradition and perhaps that is where some of my reluctance comes from. I have never 100% agreed with any particular path, there have been pieces that resonate for me, I explore and learn as much as I can and when it no longer resonates I move onto the next piece, whether its within that tradition or not.
Throughout my years I have completely immersed myself in Hawaiian Shamanism, Native American Shamanism, Yogic Traditions, Tantric Teachings, Pagan Wisdom, Earth Medicine and so much more, they have each added an important piece of knowledge and understanding to my life and myself and yet each step has required time to fully embody those teachings and I guess this is what I am really saying. That it is not enough to use a name, to label yourself with a title, to do 1 or 2 courses, to feel attracted to something and then put yourself up as an expert in that area, to claim a title that you have not earned, to mislead people because it will get you followers, or likes, or money, or power, or because you are arrogant enough to assume that you are ‘this’ without actually having done the work.
“You really do need to EMBODY what you have learned and make it your own and that is the piece that I have been denying…”
This is something that I am re-exploring now as we speak, I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that to reach my full potential, to step up to my souls purpose, to be in true divine alignment with my higher self, I have to find a way to not only own and accept this large part of myself, but to also find a way to share it with others that doesn’t feel stupid, ignorant, arrogant or disrespectful.
I am totally open to suggestions, while at the same time enjoying the gentle self-exploration that this new awareness has revealed to me. If this resonates with you, whether you are still finding your way, or feel like a master at your craft, I would LOVE to hear your opinions, insights and feedback on this topic.
I was so excited this morning; I finally had some time and some extra money to get a massage.
My body had been crying out for some good bodywork for weeks and it was finally happening!
I had seen lots of comments on my recent posts about how money was probably the Number 1 deterrent for people getting regular massages and I had been thinking, but how can you put a price on a good massage? They are just so vital to your health and well-being and then it happened…I got a bad massage, well not a bad one, but not a great one and I thought “oh, this is why people don’t think it’s worth the money, this is the kind of treatments they are getting! How can I let them know that the last thing you are thinking about when you receive an exceptional massage is money?” and so here I am sharing some tips on how to make sure that your hard earned money isn’t wasted on a ‘not great’ treatment.
Short fingernails: if your massage therapist has long manicured, or false nails, than the chances are they will not be able to give you the deep and thorough experience that you are after. Long fingernails are a no-no if you are after more than just a relaxing body rub with oil.
Appropriate music: When you are in a receptive mode, allowing your body to let go and release, you can be incredibly open to all sorts of sensory input, therefore the music that is playing during your treatment is incredibly important. In Hawaiian Style Massage the music sets the pace for so much of the work being done, I personally choose playlists that have a blending of different sounds; from indigenous and earthy sounds like didgeridoo, shakers and flutes, nature sounds like birds and water, songs with beautiful words and messages, spiritual mantras and other music that resonates with a higher frequency. Soothing, inspirational, or high vibrational music is a vital component for a good experience…music with swearing is never appropriate when providing someone with a healing treatment (I can’t believe I actually have to even say this!)
A therapist that takes time to connect with you: If you walk straight in and lie on the table, with only a cursory check in, you may not get a treatment that is able to access all the parts of you that are needing release. I believe it is quite valuable to take extra time before a treatment to not only find out what is going on physically for a client, but to also touch on emotional and environmental factors that may be creating disharmony within the body and mind. Having a deeper understanding of how, or why the body may be manifesting with certain aches and pains, or dis-ease is how we move towards ultimate healing. I know the clients that come to me are after more than a short term fix, they are committed to their long term well-being on all levels and having self-awareness is a part of this process.
A designated massage space/room: Many amazing massage therapists work from home and we can’t all afford a separate space as a treatment room, however the space that is being used should still feel sacred and beautiful. If your therapist is just setting up a table in the junk room, surrounded by boxes and piles of crap, or if you can hear people making lots of noise within the house or treatment zone, it can be hard to find that Zen place where all the good stuff happens. A good therapist does not treat this work as a hobby, it can be informal and personal, while still being professional.
Experience: If you are looking for more than a body rub with oil, make sure to check how much experience your therapist has…it is true, I have met some therapists who are just incredible with their hands from the get go, however, most people need a few years of experience, massaging lots of bodies to get a good feel for how to give the best massage possible. When I have a client on the table, their body usually talks to me; I can see the places that are tight, contracted and need some attention. I expect more than a generic massage routine when I see my therapist and so should you! Unfortunately in this industry some people are just doing it to make a quick buck, however others, like me, are doing it because they believe in the power of good bodywork and massage therapy, you can usually tell the difference very quickly.
So many of you know how devastating it is when your favourite therapist moves away, or burns out, or changes career, or is always booked up when you need them. We know how hard it is to fill that gap and how disappointing it is to spend time and money trying to find someone else just as good. As a Massage Therapist myself, I have higher expectations of what a GREAT massage should entail. When I spend the time and money on a treatment I need it to be good, I need it to do what it’s supposed to do, my body requires someone highly skilled and capable to get into all of those sore spots and overworked places, so I have probably been disappointed more than most on my quest to find good therapists. This is how I know that massage is more than a luxury though, for me and for many of us, it is a necessity and anyone who has had a really good treatment knows what a life changing experience it can be!
I would like to end by saying, that just because you go to a 5 star day spa and pay through the nose, does not mean you will get a good massage, and just because someone is massaging from their lounge room doesn’t mean you will get a bad one. There are so many of us that really are great at this work and it can be frustrating for us to hear of so many peoples bad experiences because we know that it can put you off having more treatments which isn’t good for you, or for us.
We are in this business because we want to help, because we know the healing potential possible with good bodywork and because we really care!
If you have an amazing massage therapist I’d love to know who they are, please share in the comments sections below.
As so many of you know already, I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer in 2017
As you can imagine, this was an absolutely life changing event. I overhauled my life completely, from my diet, to my relationships, to my thoughts and behaviours, no part of my life was overlooked.
For me I had a strong belief that my cancer was created by more than environmental toxins, or poor diet, but also from the emotions, feelings and thoughts that I was carrying around within me, all of the time. Whether it was one traumatic event, or a chronic state of being, I was determined to heal some of my old patterns and wounds, so that I could come back into optimal health!
In the years proceeding my diagnosis I had become aware of some breast lumps, during that time I researched and explored so many areas of health and well-being on my way to recovery. One thing I realised was that my breasts didn’t get a lot of care. This fun video shows just how neglected this part of our body can be!
“So one of the first things I needed to do was love them more!”
This wasn’t so easy for me, especially with a breast lump that I could feel and sometimes even see, I found that when I was giving attention to my breasts, it was laced with fear and uncertainty, really the worst energy I could have been generating while trying to heal this part of my body.
Happy Breast Balm was one of my first steps towards changing my relationship with this beautiful part of my body. I already knew about so many of the amazing ingredients in this balm, especially the potency of essential oils for well-being. For me this product just brought all of the good stuff together in one delicious product, as well as giving me even more information and back ground on how to continue to take care of my breasts, not just now but well into the future. The information on dry brushing and the diagrams showing how to stimulate and support my lymphatic system were just gold! I loved this product so much that I contacted Sue to see how I could share it with other women and so this beautiful feminine business affiliation was born…
I am so happy to say, that through these many changes that I made and continue to make, I am the healthiest that I have ever been in my life! My outlook on living has changed, my experiences as a woman, mother, lover, friend and business woman continue to get even better and I look forward to the adventures that await me far into my future.
If you are looking for ways to give yourself and your body more love, than this product really is the way to go. To order your product/s or to find out more about it, you can follow this link…
Today I realised on an even deeper level why I am here and what my purpose is….
I am always attempting to be the best version of my self possible. Whether it’s regarding my health, relationships, inner world, or life lessons, I love to be actively growing, learning, evolving and discovering new things about myself. Really when it comes down to it, it’s about being more in my flow, my naturalness, my ease, my grace…
I am committed to being the best me I can be, every day and I also understand that some days that will look different to other days. It’s not about judging, or forcing, or being a hard task master. It’s about seeing the ways, feeling the opportunities, acknowledging the patterns and being open to the shifts and changes that naturally want to occur as I journey through life.
“I have tried to be someone who doesn’t need to learn, or grow, but it’s impossible for me to not want to know more, to be more, even when that sometimes means being less.”
It’s not about achieving, or being busy, it’s about uncovering all the layers that have accumulated over my radiant shining, my beautiful being, my divine alignment. It’s about being on the leading edge of what it means to be me, alive in this moment, awake in the world.
This passion doesn’t just stop with me either. I became a Massage Therapist because it immediately makes people feel good, it helps them feel better. The first time I received a Kahuna Massage, I said “I want to make people feel that good!” and I quit my 12 year career and went and studied Hawaiian Massage and Huna Philosophy. I felt that it was such a gift, to be able to support people in feeling better right now, in this moment.
However that’s not all that it offers.
Deep, nurturing bodywork helps you release toxins and aches and pains on a physical level, it helps reduce feelings of stress, tension and anxiety on emotional levels and it supports you to come back into your own fully integrated and divine self alignment on a spiritual level. It really can be like pressing the reset button, it is an opportunity to let go of what has been and make space for what is to come. It creates possibility for deep change and transformation, it allows you to stop, to switch off, to fall into those healing brain waves and to connect with your own souls purpose, if that’s what you are choosing.
Every treatment is your opportunity to shed what is no longer serving you and embrace those parts that you want to keep. Your mindfulness, your attention, your intention, is a powerful part of every massage you receive…
So next time you hop on the table, whether it’s with me or someone else, know that this is a powerful time. Not only have you chosen to invest in your health and well-being in this moment, you have also chosen to invest in your future self as well. Enjoy the experience with all of your being, knowing that the long term benefits can be just as potent, sometimes even more so, than the short term pleasure of your deeply nourishing bodywork treatment…it’s a Win Win!
Much love Shekinah
P.S. if you know it is time for you to honour yourself with a treatment, I have many beautiful services to choose from. Take a look at the Sacred Feminine Massages and Treatments on offer here…I look forward to connecting with you soon xx
Would you like to book in right now! I’d love to hear from you! Ph: 0416 376 951 / Email: email@example.com
It won’t come as a surprise to learn that massage, in many forms, supports good quality sleep. Massage is very much a restorative experience for the human body.
A lot of research shows that just 60 minutes of massage can be equal to a full night’s worth of sleep. The mechanism by which massage helps to establish a more organized sleep pattern isn’t fully understood, but studies consistently report that subjects who are massaged (with a variety of modalities) experience deeper, more restorative, less disturbed sleep. It takes a lot of energy for the body to be feeding muscle tissues with oxygen and to work out that lactic acid. With massage therapy doing the work for you, it becomes possible to have more energy every day because you’re effectively getting twice the sleep you normally would. The bodywork doesn’t even have to take place directly before sleep either; clients report better sleep even several hours after receiving a massage.
“So if you have been struggling with sleep, a hectic work week, extra emotional stress, or increasing aches and pains, a massage could be the perfect treatment for you!”
Many people seem addicted to their dramatic, intense, uncomfortable, or stressful feelings.
They seem unable to notice how strongly they are in resistance, how far away they are from themselves and their own happiness. Even when something good happens, the next intense thing is just around the corner to get upset about and I must admit, this was me a lot of the time too. This is usually a clear indicator that you are living life in reaction to what’s happening, a victim of circumstance, instead of knowing that you are a creator of your reality and that ACTION and DOING are only helpful, when it is flowing from a place of alignment with self.
My cancer diagnosis made me have a hard look at what kind of life I wanted to live. If life was just going to feel like a struggle, a never ending stream of things to do, fix, overcome, or try and control, then the fact was, I didn’t actually want to keep living it. I only wanted to stay here if I could feel happier, more peaceful, more joyful, more connected, more satisfied and experience more pleasure. I finally realised that if I wanted these things, I could never consistently expect them from outside of me, whether it was through other people, or external experience’s, I could never control the world enough to constantly feel good, the only way I could guarantee having these feelings every day, was if I cultivated them within myself, regardless of what was happening around me! And so the journey began…
“It’s been over a year now, since I made the commitment to start re-wiring my thoughts to shift my vibration into something that made me feel good.”
It’s been a real struggle at times, to not let the old default patterns take over and send me on the road to hell and sometimes they have won for a while…however, there has been one major factor that has been incredibly useful for keeping me on track…my emotions! Once I realised that my emotions are actually here to help, that they are invaluable to my ongoing well-being, that they are an incredible guidance system, showing each of us just where we are at in life and how much resistance we may be in, things really began to reach that tipping point, where it became easier and easier to bring myself back into alignment. Whether it’s full blown fear or just minor discomfort, knowing that I am out of alignment with my own truth, whenever I don’t feel GOOD is actually freakin remarkable! How come they don’t teach you this at school??? Our emotions are here to help us, not hurt us, not inconvenience us, not destroy us, or make us messy and dysfunctional. They show us when we are in dysfunction. They clearly tell us when we have moved away from our truth, our inner being, our higher self, and our souls path!
Sometimes I don’t realise how much I have changed, until something happens and I see how I am feeling differently about it. I’m actually really proud of how far I have come and how often I can witness the negative feelings, or thoughts and choose a different way, before it gets too bad. So now I do my best to go through each day, each encounter, each experience, staying mindful of how I am feeling and I TRUST that feeling. If it feels good than I have full permission to go there, I know I am living in my truth…if it doesn’t feel good then I get to reflect, introspect, discuss, change, transform, or set whatever boundaries and guidelines I need to, to be able to get back to my own natural alignment. Sometimes that means saying NO without reservation and sometimes it means saying no but being open to a way that it may feel like a yes, with just a little bit of tweaking…
It may not always make sense to other people either, we each have our own personal alignment of course, so what feels good to me, may seem strange to you. Some people may want to judge you, attack you, undermine you, guilt trip you, or feel justified in forcing you to defend your position to them, if you don’t do, or say, what they want you to. However only you know what you are feeling, only you can know whether that situation, choice or experience, is right for you. And this is something else that I have discovered, sometimes, when I don’t feel good about something, I don’t actually know why straight away and now I don’t have to. I know this is my intuition, my instincts, my inner self guiding me, I can trust it without always needing to know why and usually with time, or in hindsight, it becomes quite clear what my emotions were trying to tell me. So I would encourage you not to second-guess them. Explore them, play with them, question them, but don’t dismiss them or ignore them, they are unique to you and they are always trying to bring you home to yourself…
So whenever a crunchy situation presents itself, or you find yourself in disharmony with another, or you realise that you aren’t feeling good, take some time to bring yourself back into alignment, through meditation, breath work, stopping for a cuppa, going for a walk, playing music, having a dance, or whatever things you know of, that bring you easily and quickly, back to a place of feeling good and then re-engage, if it is something you would like to do, not just because it is something you feel you have to do…because when we try and fix something, or change something, from a bad feeling place, it is unlikely that we will create the best possible outcome, but if we take the time and then re-connect from a good feeling place, then solutions beyond your wildest imagination become possible!
Loving you all, through the ups and the downs, the in’s and the outs, the yes’s and the no’s…
The term Single parent is much more accurate but still doesn’t truly reflect the situation of having to be both Mother and Father, sometimes simultaneously, (is that even possible), as I try and raise a child on my own. I am in this constant juggle of wanting to be in my natural femininity of loving and nurturing and being gently aware and connected, which comes up against the other needs of discipline, setting up chore lists and policing them, as well as needing to be on top of my own and my child’s time management, as well as creating and keeping to a schedule, whilst holding space for her emotions, to be the provider emotionally, physically and financially, and all whilst encouraging her beauty and growing maturity and still trying to find time to actually just be me, whatever that is, in this confusing and overwhelming mish mash of ever changing roles and transitions between my own masculine and feminine nature.
“As a single parent I am constantly having to be both…so maybe I am a Fother, or a Mather…there’s got to be a better word!”
To clarify, for me Mothering means being in my feminine (whatever that means to me) and Fathering means to be in my masculine (whatever that means to me)…masculine and feminine are fluid terms for many people.
For some single parents this may not be a bother, however for me, with my Libra Moon and with Libra Rising, I am ALL about the balance and harmony within and without. Couple this with my Leo need to be authentic and in integrity with how and who I am in the world and it can be a crazy making situation! I am all about finding harmony in my relationships, my relationship with self, with life and with others, so I can’t even begin to succinctly describe how hard this balance is to maintain for myself, when I am almost forced to be something I am not, so frequently, within my days, every day, day after day, after day…this is the thing I think people don’t understand when they think about single mothers…
They don’t think about whether we actually ever signed up to a be a father, they don’t think about how much of the time we are required to be something that WE ARE NOT and that we often times become so used to being stuck in this enforced role, this something else, that we forget who we truly are. They don’t think about whether we actually get to be fully juicy, surrendered, open, nourishing and loving women anymore, because who is holding space for that to happen, when we are always holding space for another? And lets not even start on when society does see single mothers as being juicy, open and loving women, the shaming that occurs can be deafening!
I have had enough of being in my masculine and I know I have said this before, but really in this Yang valuing society, it takes constant mindfulness to not just drop into the masculine way of doing things by default…so I am even more eager to gain more clarity on all of the ways that I can quickly and deeply bring myself back into my feminine way of being, for my own health and well-being and so that I can be the role model I actually want to be for my daughter…
So that has forced me to re-evaluate my current list of Yin creating experiences and whether they are working for me or not…this list includes reading fictional books, dancing around like a crazy person to my favourite music, meditating more and creating space to be in my creative flow, without distractions, more often!
I have even had the delight of re-visiting my EMPOWERING the Feminine online course, as well as my free “How to Fill Your Cup” mini immersion and its been quite a relief to realise I’ve done so much of the work already, now it really is just finding ways to remind myself regularly, of what I already know…I would also love to hear about the wicked, wonderful and creative ways you all find to come back into your feminine alignment in the midst of this over-achieving society and our many responsibilities…please share!
Send you all Lots of Love, Beauty and Wildness on this crazy ride we call Life!
Shekinah Leigh “Honouring the Feminine”
P.S. If you are really ready for some deeper work in clearing out and re-aligning with your feminine being take a look at this…
A year ago today I went into surgery to have a cancerous tumour removed from my breast.
For me it was a lesson in letting others help me, in this instance an expert surgeon. I had already spent a few years monitoring the lump and making massive lifestyle changes and yet, even with all that I had done, surgery was still necessary. Up until this moment I had still been trying to do it all myself, to research myself, to heal myself, to go it alone and fix it all my myself…. last year was a humbling year, where I finally realised how important it is to let other people help you, to understand that we are all interconnected and interdependent and to open myself to my community for support.
It was and continues to be a lesson in trusting my own intuition and inner knowing, because every one is an expert on cancer but no one has the cure. Many have cured themselves but their cure doesn’t work for everyone, or it would be THE CURE. You have to learn to listen to what YOUR body needs because it isn’t clear what causes, or heals, this dis-ease within each of us but what is clear is that it is a personal journey, with personal lessons to gain.
“For me, it has been an opportunity to reclaim my power, my life, my choices, and to align once more, with my purpose.”
What a transformation this life threatening diagnosis has been and so this past year has been one of self-nurturing and self-care, not on a superficial level but on a very deep, cellular and life re-affirming level. I knew before but I embody even more now, the knowledge that I need to put myself first more often. I needed to stop trying to be everything and actually value downtime. I had to totally reset my belief systems about love, connection, relationships, work and family responsibilities and obligations. I had to re-learn ways of staying in balance that work for my health and well being and these are all things I probably wouldn’t have done unless it was about living or dying.
Too many women are being diagnosed with cancer, chronic fatigue, burnout, adrenal failure and other debilitating dis-eases because we are using ourselves in ways that we were never meant to. We put more and more pressure on ourselves, we become more and more busy and the slightest time of rest is seen as failure, or laziness, or something to be ashamed of.As a mother, especially as a single mother, the expectations society as a whole and some people in particular placed on me, to constantly perform to impossible standards, or be judged harshly, were huge.
Because lets face it, society encourages people to give and give and give, even when it leads them to an early grave. In the end most just pay lip service to self-love and self-care and so many still treat it like a chore on their to-do list that they will get to eventually, or maybe if it’s a special occasion.
So honouring the feminine is more than just a pleasant thing for me to do, it has become a lifestyle, it is a vital thing to BE every day, as I honour my beauty, my integrity and my alignment with self. I am living with more balance and harmony while becoming more capable of fully trusting my own intuition when it comes to what I need in my life. This is still a work in progress but I now know that when I take the time to check in with myself, I already know what I need and if I can get out of my own way, if I can connect to myself, if I can connect with the divine, if I can choose beauty, than no matter how long or short my life is, it will be meaningful and valuable, not just to me but to others as well.
So on this anniversary of life-changing events, I encourage you to start putting yourself first.Not for a day, or a week, or a month, but FOREVER! And not in a way where you don’t care about anyone else, but in a way that has you choosing alignment with your souls purpose, with your inner being, where you are tuned in and tapped in to your emotions and what your body is telling you, so that you are healthy and happy from the inside out!
Loving life and all its lessons!
Shekinah Leigh ~ Honouring the Feminine
P.S. Whether it’s through sacred and nurturing bodywork, or understanding and integrating life lessons through my online courses, Honouring the Feminine, is about honouring the Divine Alignment with Self…because that is where the Magic is!
How ingrained is it, for women, for mothers, to feel a massive responsibility to the rest of society to make sure their kids aren’t an inconvenience for anyone else?
How much pressure is there every time we go out, every time we want to leave the sanctity of the home space and venture out around other humans?
I know as a first time mother, having a baby that was unsettled and cried loudly, meant that I felt I should stay at home, in isolation, because I felt and it was quite obvious to me, by the reactions of those around me, that my baby and I were not welcome in society, if she was going to be loud or uncontrollable IN ANY WAY…fast forward a few years to a free-spirited, strong-willed and highly energetic toddler and still I felt forced to spend so much time at home because I didn’t always have the energy to keep up with her, or police her every move, so that others weren’t feeling compromised in their own experiences.
Fast forward a few more years and even though my daughter is mature and learning her own ways to be unique whilst still fitting in, there are parents who want to judge her (and me) for hurting their kids feelings once, or twice, with no thought mind you, to how many times their child may have hurt my daughters feelings over the years and so still I am held responsible for my child’s actions.
This whole energetic became quite apparent the other night, as we were running our Mother & Daughter Sound Healing. For most of the girls it was a relatively new experience, so even though we made sure they were super comfy and could lie down for the allotted period of time, there was still a lot of shuffling and movement and other distracting kid noises coming from their side of the room during the sound.
Now, all of the mums had been to a sound healing before, they new the space and the experience they were looking for, hoping to drop into that journey of sound and meditation as they were carried along with the music…
Of course this didn’t happen with all of the distraction going on from the girls and almost every parent, once the sound healing was over, had felt some form of frustration
That they didn’t get the experience they hoped for, for themselves
That their children couldn’t stay still/quite for most of the allotted period of time
And worry whether the noise of their children had impacted on other peoples experience in the space
It was very powerful for me, to witness these parents, including myself, go through frustration at not being able to verbally control their child’s behaviour, therefore having to put up with it and most times, finally surrender to what was happening, whilst still looking for the joyful experience in what was occurring, after finally letting go of what had been wished for…maybe after several attempts!
I don’t know about you, but for me this is the story of much of my parenting…frustration that I am not getting the experience my inner being and outer being are hoping for within my own life, worry that my child’s disobedience, noise, wildness, uniqueness, or general childlike behaviour is inconveniencing or ruining someone else’s experience as well and then feeling fully responsible for mine, my child’s and all of the others peoples feelings, as I try to find the best way to ‘manage’ any given situation for the well-being of all.
Now don’t get me wrong, I have totally been places where parents have let their children be distracting and noisy when it felt completely inappropriate and I have wished they would parent them better, yes there are places where we need to respect the space that is being created for others and if this had of been a general public sound healing than this behaviour would have been inappropriate, probably…
However I remember going to an event where a group of Indigenous Australians were doing the opening ceremony. They had small children as a part of the dance performance and these kids sometimes were not doing what everyone else was doing and yet no-one redirected them, no-one tried to control their behaviour, they were just allowed to be there, in it, experiencing it in their own way, without being forced to be responsible, or fit in…they didn’t get in trouble in any way for not following what everyone else was doing and it was beautiful and liberating to watch!
How often do we do this with our kids? How often do we just let them participate without trying to make them do it right?
I just know that as a parent, especially a single parent who has no-one else to tag team with, that as the mother and the father, I have missed out on so many things because I knew I couldn’t guarantee my child’s behaviourwould suit the space and to save embarrassment, frustration and possible overwhelm, I just haven’t attended.
So now let me ask you this, how many of you have been to a sound healing, or meditation and the person next to you has fallen asleep and is snoring loudly? Did anyone have words to them about how inappropriate, distracting or rude it was to the other participants? Or did everyone need to just deal with it and take it as an opportunity to find the quiet and centred space within, even when the conditions weren’t ideal? It is interesting how we can hold children (and therefore mothers) up to a more strict code of conduct than we do other adults in our society…. why do you think we do this, I’d love to know?
So I want to take this opportunity to thank all of the mothers present at our sound healing for not only going through all of the emotions, but also sharing the experience they went through, whether it seemed good, or bad. I honour each of them for going through their own process of constant surrender and let go, as custodian of their children/s behaviour, it’s a big job, a constant job and a fine line to walk between allowing our children to grow up free, unique and in touch with their naturalness, whist making sure that they conform enough that we can actually mix with the rest of society when we desire to do so…
So to all of the mums out there, feeling the constant burden of responsibility, those who are walking the fine line between us/them and everyone else, I applaud your efforts every day, I get it, I feel it, I know it and I see you in the struggle. You are doing beautifully!
I will throw a little challenge out to you today though, and it is, why not, just once, as an experiment, the next time you are about to admonish, or re-direct, or feel the need to control a behaviour that your child is displaying in front of others, because you think it may not be appropriate, just stop yourself and observe what happens. Witness yourself letting go, witness your child in their flow, let it run its course and see where it leads, the chances are it won’t lead to anything near as bad as you fear and maybe, just maybe, you can take the pressure off yourself and stop doing the emotional and behavioural labour for yourself and your kids and perhaps within that new space you create, you can find more peace and ease in your every day life….
Loving you all so much
P.S. I will be running some juicy women’s events this year in the SHE Temple, so that we can all come together and discover new ways of self-nourishing and support as we traverse this crazy world together! Signup here to stay in the loop…