Did you know that your emotions are designed to help you stay in alignment?


Sunset chaser-3Many people seem addicted to their dramatic, intense, uncomfortable, or stressful feelings.

They seem unable to notice how strongly they are in resistance, how far away they are from themselves and their own happiness. Even when something good happens, the next intense thing is just around the corner to get upset about and I must admit, this was me a lot of the time too. This is usually a clear indicator that you are living life in reaction to what’s happening, a victim of circumstance, instead of knowing that you are a creator of your reality and that ACTION and DOING are only helpful, when it is flowing from a place of alignment with self. 

My cancer diagnosis made me have a hard look at what kind of life I wanted to live. If life was just going to feel like a struggle, a never ending stream of things to do, fix, overcome, or try and control, then the fact was, I didn’t actually want to keep living it. I only wanted to stay here if I could feel happier, more peaceful, more joyful, more connected, more satisfied and experience more pleasure. I finally realised that if I wanted these things, I could never consistently expect them from outside of me, whether it was through other people, or external experience’s, I could never control the world enough to constantly feel good, the only way I could guarantee having these feelings every day, was if I cultivated them within myself, regardless of what was happening around me! And so the journey began…


“It’s been over a year now, since I made the commitment to start re-wiring my thoughts to shift my vibration into something that made me feel good.”


It’s been a real struggle at times, to not let the old default patterns take over and send me on the road to hell and sometimes they have won for a while…however, there has been one major factor that has been incredibly useful for keeping me on track…my emotions! Once I realised that my emotions are actually here to help, that they are invaluable to my ongoing well-being, that they are an incredible guidance system, showing each of us just where we are at in life and how much resistance we may be in, things really began to reach that tipping point, where it became easier and easier to bring myself back into alignment. Whether it’s full blown fear or just minor discomfort, knowing that I am out of alignment with my own truth, whenever I don’t feel GOOD is actually freakin remarkable! How come they don’t teach you this at school??? Our emotions are here to help us, not hurt us, not inconvenience us, not destroy us, or make us messy and dysfunctional. They show us when we are in dysfunction. They clearly tell us when we have moved away from our truth, our inner being, our higher self, and our souls path! 

Sometimes I don’t realise how much I have changed, until something happens and I see how I am feeling differently about it. I’m actually really proud of how far I have come and how often I can witness the negative feelings, or thoughts and choose a different way, before it gets too bad. So now I do my best to go through each day, each encounter, each experience, staying mindful of how I am feeling and I TRUST that feeling. If it feels good than I have full permission to go there, I know I am living in my truth…if it doesn’t feel good then I get to reflect, introspect, discuss, change, transform, or set whatever boundaries and guidelines I need to, to be able to get back to my own natural alignment. Sometimes that means saying NO without reservation and sometimes it means saying no but being open to a way that it may feel like a yes, with just a little bit of tweaking…

It may not always make sense to other people either, we each have our own personal alignment of course, so what feels good to me, may seem strange to you. Some people may want to judge you, attack you, undermine you, guilt trip you, or feel justified in forcing you to defend your position to them, if you don’t do, or say, what they want you to. However only you know what you are feeling, only you can know whether that situation, choice or experience, is right for you. And this is something else that I have discovered, sometimes, when I don’t feel good about something, I don’t actually know why straight away and now I don’t have to. I know this is my intuition, my instincts, my inner self guiding me, I can trust it without always needing to know why and usually with time, or in hindsight, it becomes quite clear what my emotions were trying to tell me. So I would encourage you not to second-guess them. Explore them, play with them, question them, but don’t dismiss them or ignore them, they are unique to you and they are always trying to bring you home to yourself…

So whenever a crunchy situation presents itself, or you find yourself in disharmony with another, or you realise that you aren’t feeling good, take some time to bring yourself back into alignment, through meditation, breath work, stopping for a cuppa, going for a walk, playing music, having a dance, or whatever things you know of, that bring you easily and quickly, back to a place of feeling good and then re-engage, if it is something you would like to do, not just because it is something you feel you have to do…because when we try and fix something, or change something, from a bad feeling place, it is unlikely that we will create the best possible outcome, but if we take the time and then re-connect from a good feeling place, then solutions beyond your wildest imagination become possible!

Loving you all, through the ups and the downs, the in’s and the outs, the yes’s and the no’s…


Shekinah Leigh
Sacred Feminine Practitioner

P.S. Emotional Release, or Nurturing Bodywork, can support you back to alignment in the most beautiful, effortless and pleasurable way…no doing, just BEing and receiving…or come along to one of our sacred Women’s Circles and Sound Healing gatherings, designed to realign you with your feminine essence…






Kahuna Massage Specialist * Civil Marriage Celebrant * Shamanic Practitioner * Rites of Passage Facilitator Shekinah Leigh runs her own business on the Gold Coast providing Kahuna Bodywork, Sacred Ceremonies, Shamanic Energy Healing and Rites of Passage programs. Integrating her chosen paths of Hawaiian Shamanism, Native American Medicine Teachings and the Ancient Yogic Traditions, Shekinah holds a strong and safe space for transformation & healing to take place at a deep & cellular level. “I have learned that it can be through embracing our darkest nights and greatest fears that we experience our greatest gifts…”

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