The Co-Dependency Triangle


Screen-Shot-2012-12-02-at-12.00.27-PMI received this teaching many years ago, while apprenticed to the Sweet Medicine Sundance Path. It is such a simple, yet helpful tool that I wanted to share it with you here.

The Co-dependency triangle shows us what role we play in perpetuating drama and disharmony in our daily lives. When we are living in Karma and living in co-dependent relationships, most of the time they will take the form of this triangle. Quite often you will be one of the points, either victim, persecutor or rescuer. Many times these roles shift and move depending on the issues, or triggers, or relationship that you are involved in. However, if your relationship with your partner, your children, your co-workers or any one else, feels full of drama and dis-ease, chances are you are dancing this triangle of co-dependency.

This is how it works – you will be one point, the other person will be another point and your relationship will take on the 3rd aspect. So if you are the victim and your partner is the persecutor, than your relationship will be the rescuer. If you are the rescuer and your partner is the victim, than your relationship will be the persecutor.

I encourage you to take some time, to compassionately overlay this triangle into your daily interactions and important relationships. Truthfully acknowledge what role you play and make a conscious decision, if you choose to, to step out of Karma, step out of Co-dependency and away from Drama.

I will post the Co-empowerment triangle very soon – this triangle will show you how to step into Dharma, maturity and co-empowered relating xx



Kahuna Massage Specialist * Civil Marriage Celebrant * Shamanic Practitioner * Rites of Passage Facilitator Shekinah Leigh runs her own business on the Gold Coast providing Kahuna Bodywork, Sacred Ceremonies, Shamanic Energy Healing and Rites of Passage programs. Integrating her chosen paths of Hawaiian Shamanism, Native American Medicine Teachings and the Ancient Yogic Traditions, Shekinah holds a strong and safe space for transformation & healing to take place at a deep & cellular level. “I have learned that it can be through embracing our darkest nights and greatest fears that we experience our greatest gifts…”

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