Stop Dobbing and Handle it Yourself!

IMG_2594What age do you think kids should stop ‘dobbing’ and handle it themselves?

I’ve had a few experiences lately where my daughter has come home from school and told me how some of her friends were dobbing on her other friends for various reasons. One was because they found out one of their ‘friends’ was wearing makeup, when they weren’t supposed to at school. Another time was when a letter was handed to some girls, explaining how some of the other girls feelings were being hurt and that they weren’t sure they could keep being friends because of it, this letter was handed to a teacher.

For me, I think Grade 6 is too old for boys or girls to be dobbing on their friends and peers, unless there is an extreme health or safety issue present. To me, this dobbing is handing over their power to an outside authority instead of taking an opportunity to learn the skills they need to, to communicate effectively, problem solve and compassionately find resolutions amongst themselves.

From what I can see, this dobbing has been creating separation and I wonder if this is the age where girls are being conditioned to start policing each other’s choices, like what clothes they wear, how they do their hair, or how they express themselves. Just at the age when girls are wanting to explore who they are and what they like, separate from their families and friends, their peers are forcing them to conform or suppress parts of themselves that they are ready to share with the world, or suffer the consequences of unnecessary intervention and/or punishment by teachers or parents.

“I may be different from many parents but I’m NOT a strong believer in schools telling girls what they can or can’t do with their bodies”

From piercings, to hair ties, to makeup, as far as I am concerned a person has the right to choose how they want to look and not have to conform to societies limited standards. To me, this is the age where we should be teaching girls how to have complete autonomy over their bodies, so that they know they are in charge of what happens to it and when and how.

Don’t get me wrong, I am all for discussing things in depth with my daughter, supporting her needs, challenging some of her choices and reframing some of the stories that she may have running about herself, other people and situations. However more and more I need to trust in her growing maturity to make the right choices for herself. I don’t want to be choosing her friends, or culling people I think I don’t like because of some random school story she brings home. I don’t need to get involved in school dramas that die down almost as soon as they flare up. I don’t want to be judging other girls who are learning and maturing and dealing with hormones on top of all that. I don’t want to be judging other mothers because their children may be expressing inappropriately as they find the right way forward for themselves.

This is such an extreme learning time for my girl, as she tries to leave behind a childish way of interacting and relating with others and yet doesn’t quite yet have the capacity to maintain maturity in the face of the many triggers and issues that arise. I’m 40 years old and even I don’t always have the maturity I would like, to deal with every situation that comes to me and so we both practice compassion as we weave this new picture in my daughters coming of age…

What do you think?

☾Shekinah Leigh ~ Honouring the Feminine
Mentoring Girls and Young women
“Sacred Feminine Practitioner”


How Long Does it Take to Know Someone Really Well?

IMG_1859How long does it take to know someone? Do you think you know someone really well?

Have you stopped seeing all of who they are and are just relating with the one aspect that you think they embody?

Over the course of my life I have had very different experiences and yet I have always been me. When I was younger I was quite in my Leo Lioness Yang Energy, I worked full-time, did self defence classes, was a feminist activist, attended rallies, organised women’s policies, bought my own home and was incredibly independent and self-sufficient.

When I fell pregnant my external world started to change as my internal world shifted. The physical constraints of a pregnant body, from the aches and pains, to the full body fatigue, forced me to explore another way of being, a more internalised and quiet way and while I didn’t embrace the change fully, it was certainly the path to something new. I had also begun to delve more into earth based traditions & teachings and these 2 things combined, were the beginning of something different.

Then, after 6 years of single parenting, being in survival mode, doing and achieving and striving to build a business, provide for my family, be a great mum and still have some kind of life outside of all of this, I realised that I had had enough of being the man, I’d had enough of being in the masculine energies of constantly doing and achieving, it was exhausting me and I was reaching burnout from being on the constant go for so long. So I decided, during one auspicious astrological event, to hand over the ‘masculine’, providing role to the universe and to start focusing more on being in my feminine.

My whole life changed within 1 month of this new declaration and as can often happen when exploring a new dynamic of self, the pendulum swung quite strongly the other way as I dove headfirst into my Libran Moon Yin Inner Self. In my desire to embody these new energies I did go very deeply into many aspects of the feminine that weren’t actually in balance and would never have served me in the long run. However, it was necessary for me, in my exploration, to experience this extreme so that I could come back to my own centre and find my place of harmony, within my own personal balance of the masculine and feminine within me.

“And all of this is still only a minute glance into what I have been and experienced through my 40 years on this planet, it’s only a small insight into the depths that I have explored as a human being on this planet, at this time…”

Now anyone that I was in relationship with over any of this time, could have very different stories of me. Especially if they only knew me for months, or years. Some may see me as this hard ball-breaking go-getter that didn’t let anything get in her way. Others saw me as a super achiever who bought a house and raised a child on her own, while running a business. Others may see me as someone who had difficultly in making decisions and who was reluctant to work or achieve anything. Others would see me as a victim, who was overwhelmed by life and circumstance and was bordering on a mental breakdown, others may only see laziness as I learned how to slow down and BE more and then there are others who see all of this, the whole person who has been learning, exploring, growing, achieving, being, evolving, breaking, re-forming, imploding and re-emerging as I have mindfully explored every stage of this human be-ingness.

I’ve been in relationships where my partners have decided that they know who I am based on the short (or even long) period of time that we have spent together. I have noticed that instead of relating to me in the moment, or as a whole being who is capable of many things, they began to relate to a story they had of who they thought I was based on a finite period of time they had witnessed. Even when I tried to discuss the situation and explain that while who I am right now is me and authentic, that I am also a human being choosing to experience something new and learn something new and therefor how I may seem, as I am learning a new phase of existence, isn’t all of who I am.

Some people get it and some don’t, however I would encourage you to create an opportunity to look at the people in your life with different eyes, try to see more than you have before, take a moment to acknowledge the years that have been experienced and know that you can never fully know another person, whether they are your child, partner, parent, friend or family…

In Beauty

☾Shekinah Leigh ~ Honouring the Feminine
“Sacred Feminine Practitioner”

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Are You Ready for a New Self-Nurturing Routine?

Sunset chaser-5I’ve written a lot about self-love and implementing a regular self-nurturing routine over the past year.

I have learned the hard way what can happen when you sacrifice too much of yourself and neglect your own needs for too long. From healthy food, satisfying relationships, deep connections and more pleasure, the ways we can take care of ourselves are varied and numerous…

I personally have needed to create a list of things that help me to soften and open, as I find that too many things in my day to day life, trigger me into an automatic approach of doingness, and business, and managing, and juggling, and waking up and doing it all over again, wondering where the day has gone, or where the week has disappeared to. Too often I witness something I have just said, or done and think “who was that?”, where was the softness in that approach, where was the love in those words, and I realise that once again I have drifted away from the essence of who I am as woman. In those moments I check my list of self-love choices and I pick at least 1 thing to do, 1 thing that will help me to come back into myself, into my heart and into my softness…I make the time for me, because I know what can happen if I don’t make myself a priority.

One of the items at the top of my self-love list is massage. However it’s not always easy to book in for a good one, on the spur of the moment and so I have learned that I have to make it a priority in my schedule, ahead of time, so that I actually make it happen! I believe strongly in the power of bodywork, not just for pleasure but also as a nurturing of conscious touch and sacred space. I truly feel that women need a lot more nurturing and loving than they currently receive and that many of us are caught in our own stories of guilt and denial, when it comes to honouring what our souls are crying out for.

I see the need that is out there, women are telling me all the time, how they need more time for themselves, more space for their femininity and more permission to care for their divine inner essence on a regular basis. Its through this call that I have created my own personal body of work from over a decade of study, life experience and deep feminine wisdom teachings and I would love to be able to offer sacred and nurturing treatments to more women.


Women know, we are intuitively aware of just how important it is to:

  • Allow ourselves to receive fully without needing to perform in return (at all)
  • Give ourselves permission to stop, to be, to breath and to meet ourselves again
  • Reconnect in Sacred Space with another woman who understands and cares
  • Move and unblock stuck energy on a physical, emotional and spiritual level (which Kahuna is designed for)
  • Feel and honour our whole bodies, from our toes to our nose, being in gratitude for all of the amazing work that it does for us, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week
  • Physically ease the aches and pains that come from our over-stressed and busy lives


To support my clients and friends, I am feeling inspired to offer a special self-nurturing reprogramming deal. The offer is for 6 massages over 6 months, at a discounted price of $450**. It is my way of encouraging you to devote yourself to yourself and create a new way of being in the world. If you can commit to a regular self-love routine you can completely transform how you approach your life, always knowing that you are caring and loving yourself and that it will benefit all.

Please contact me if you would like to devote this gift to yourself, your beauty medicine is awaiting you.

So much Love
Shekinah xx

** This is a 15% discount off of the price of a normal 1hr massage, if you would like a different treatment, please apply the 15% discount to the usual price.

Ready to raise your vibration?

Ready to Raise Your Vibration?

Ready to raise your vibration 3So many people I talk to think of massage and bodywork as something that you do as;

  1. a luxury, when you want to pamper yourself and feel good, or
  2. a necessity because the aches and pains have become too much to handle.

But what if there was a third option? What if Bodywork was something that you included as a part of your self-care routine?

Not because you are selfish, not because you have nothing better to do, not because you are on holidays, or because it has been so long, or because you’ve had a migraine all week, or a sore back for a month but because you know, deep within your core, that Soulful touch, sacred space, allowing yourself to receive, unlocking blocked energies and letting go of the day-to-day trauma that builds up in your body is absolutely VITAL to your mind, body and spirit…


What if you acknowledged that making time for a regular massage actually created more space for you to live a better life?


I know how easy it is to let bodywork treatments slip from weekly, to fortnightly, to monthly to yearly, to “when was the last one?”. I also know that whenever I get back on the table, the benefits I gain are more than just in my physical body. My emotions easily come back to balance, my mind naturally rests in harmony, my soul feels peaceful and my whole being feels re-aligned and re-integrated, ready to move back into the world again.

I personally have re-committed to regular bodywork this year, because I do know of all it’s benefits, I do know about vibrations and energies and trapped emotions. I do know, through my studies, that women need time to completely receive, to completely relax, to completely let go and surrender. We need sacred spaces were we can just BE, with nothing required of us, no-one needing us, no responsibilities, even if it is just for an hour or so. It may not seem like long, however it makes the world of difference to how we approach our lives and how life approaches us!

So, if you have been feeling stressed out, overwhelmed, overly emotional, lost, stuck confused, anxious, overworked, exhausted, constantly in ‘doing’ mode, or in pain; regardless of whether it’s mental, physical or emotional, then I would strongly encourage you to find the time, to make the time, to devote the time, to your own well-being

Come back into your body and back into your heart, with a nurturing feminine bodywork treatment, it’s time for you!

In Beauty 
Shekinah Leigh ~ Honouring the Feminine
“Sacred Feminine Practitioner”

“When we Heal Women…We Heal the World!”


It’s not Lazy, its Energy Discernment!

Beauty!Ever since I was a child I was told that I was lazy.

I didn’t feel like I was being lazy but because I wasn’t full of energy and preferred to lie down and read a book, or sit down and have a conversation, or because I didn’t want to clean my room, or because I wasn’t bouncing off the walls, I would have this word thrown at me accusingly.

As a teenager it was even worse, as I required a lot more time out as I grappled with overwhelming emotions, surging hormones, a passionate soul and an empathic and sensitive nature.

As an adult I tried to avoid situations where I could be construed as being “lazy”, because it’s never said lovingly, it’s actually quite a damaging accusation and for me, even though I couldn’t explain it,


I knew the difference between having ENERGY for something and not having energy for something.


It had nothing to do with being lazy; which means idle, indolent, slothful, lethargic, dull, slow and unwilling to work, and more to do with discernment of where, when and with whom I chose to spend my energy.

As an introvert I feel like I have a finite amount of energy that can be used on social or extroverted pursuits, before I will need to recharge my batteries. As an introvert, I recharge my batteries through quiet alone time and independent passions and interests. As a passionate Leo woman, I know what it’s like to be in the flow, to feel inspired, to have so much energy that you can just go and go, it’s quite natural to find those sweet spots when you are doing what is in alignment with your soul and what you love. So to me, now that I am an adult and I know much more about personality types, especially introverts and extroverts, I realise that throughout my life I have been called LAZY when what they actually meant was introverted and therefor, somehow, not socially acceptable. 

I really wanted to share this information with everyone, especially fellow introverts, because it’s really quite rude and hurtful, to have derogatory comments and labels pushed onto you. Just because others don’t understand your natural energy movement and want to characterize behaviours according to what that might mean if THEY were doing, or not doing, particular activities themselves, doesn’t mean it actually applies to you, only you can know that.

So now, whenever I need to recharge, or if I find I don’t have energy for something, or someone, instead of beginning to feel guilt that I might be lazy, I remind myself that it is ENERGY DISCERNMENT and as a mature and wise woman, it is something I have learned to do more and more of, so that I do have the energy I need, to do the things I truly want to do, when I want to do it!

So please before you label yourself or anyone else lazy, take some time to check in, what may look lazy could actually be something way more admirable than that….


Lots of Love

Shekinah Leigh 
“Sacred Feminine Practitioner”


DISCERNMENT: taste, discrimination, refinement, cultivation, sophistication, enlightenment, sensitivity, subtlety; insight, perceptiveness, astuteness, ingeniousness, cleverness, intelligence, sharpness, wisdom, and awareness…

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Honouring the Feminine through Nurturing Bodywork

Shekinah Leigh-5With over 11 years of certified Massage & Bodywork experience, I am an expert in my field.

Your treatment is guaranteed to be one of the best you have ever received!

Blending Hawaiian Style Bodywork (Kahuna) with deep & soft tissue massage, this treatment is designed to relax, release and re-energise you, body, mind & soul…

Acknowledging the natural ebb & flow of a woman’s physical, emotional and spiritual cycles can be frustrating and overwhelming if we do not value our divine feminine nature. Women are receptive beings, we are sensitive to our environment and as we push ourselves daily to constantly perform and achieve we are doing our loved ones and ourselves a disservice.

“Women need time to just be, to open, to receive, too soften and to expand.”

We need to give ourselves permission to come back to our heart priorities so that we can move through life with more ease and flow, effortlessly sharing our unique gifts with those we love as we continually reveal more of our authentic radiant essence to the world.

It is time, to relax into pleasure, to let go of stress and to come back to your true self…

In Beauty


Shekinah Leigh
“Sacred Feminine Practitioner”
Feminine Massage Video…

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Pregnancy Massage with Shekinah

Pregnancy Massage 1Pregnancy brings with it a myriad of physical discomforts and changes that can sometimes be hard to manage with the limited options available to pregnant women.

Massage relieves physical ailments but just as importantly, it helps you to reconnect with self and it supports you to create a stronger bond with your baby.

We can often become distracted by the physicality of pregnancy and therefore overlook or undervalue the mental, emotional and spiritual changes that are also taking place as a woman moves from Maiden to Mother and prepares for the mystery of birth.

“Pregnancy is the perfect opportunity for a woman to re-evaluate life and shift into a flow of heart priorities.”

As you move further into this life changing rite of passage, it is vitally important to take this opportunity to honour yourself and embrace this time of deep personal transformation.

I invite you to become more in tune with your body, your heart, your nature, your femininity and your baby through this beautiful style of bodywork.

With Love


Shekinah Leigh
“Sacred Feminine Practitioner”
Pregnancy Massage Video…


Special Offer to My LOYAL Customers…

Beauty!I’ve been thinking of ways that I can reward my long time clients.

I love having regular customers, it’s not only good for business but it means that I get to develop a closer relationship with you too and that is what is most important for me.

 If you are anything like me, then celebrating people’s birthdays is essential to you. Honouring the day someone was born, feeling grateful that they are on the planet and are sharing parts of their life with you, is a real privilege and so from this moment forward, I will be offering 20% off my treatment prices for YOU, during your birthday month!

And for those of you who have just had a birthday in August, September or October, I will be extending this offer for you throughout November, because a year is TOO LONG to wait, to reward you for your loyalty to my work.

So when your birthday rolls around, take this opportunity to book in, just mention this offer when you are making your appointment and feel free to use it as many times as you like, during your birthday month!

Thank you again for your ongoing support. Sending you all lots of love!


Shekinah Leigh
Sacred Feminine Practitioner


Conditions for eligibility

  1. The date of your treatment must be during your birthday month. (i.e. if your birthday is the 20th November, you must book a treatment during the month of November.)
  2. You may book in as many times as you like during your birthday month and the discount will apply. Treatments are subject to availability of course, I can not guarantee that spots will be free, but I will do my absolute best to accommodate you.
  3. This offer does not apply to first time clients, this is to reward the loyalty of my long term customers.
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I am so proud of myself, for all that I have achieved!

Shekinah Leigh-4I am a great mum; fair, compassionate, understanding and connected.

Today I feel really proud of myself for all that I do day, after day, after day.  It can be so easy to beat up on myself for not doing more, or having more, or providing more and to feel disheartened, or disappointed at all that we miss out on, sacrifice on, or compromise on. However today I can only see all that we have, all that I have created for us and I can only feel pride and gratitude at my strength, resilience and devotion to myself and my family. 

“In this 2 income society, I raise my child on my own, as a Mum and a Dad, on a single income!”

I do it every day, I wake up every single morning and I do it again…we aren’t just lucky that we live in a stunning part of the world, or that I have a job that I am really good at and which serves others to come back into their beauty and power, or that we have good friends & family, or a stable life, or very few dramas, or no addictions (bedsides chai tea!), I actually made this happen, luck had nothing to do with it!

Our lives are so RICH, we have so much more than many others do, perhaps not financially but where it really matters, in relationships and connection and emotional availability. We miss out on a lot but we also get to do a lot and we are present and connected while we do it. We mindfully engage in life and do our best to find the pleasures in the small things, whether it’s reading a book together, watching a favourite show, sharing about our day, riding to the cafe for a hot chocolate, or treating ourselves to a rare fish n’ chip dinner.

As an introvert I don’t need others to tell me I’m great and let’s face it, most of what I do as a mother is expected and taken for granted anyway, whether I am single, or in a relationship, so I’d probably be waiting a really long time to hear it. However, what I do need is for ME to stop, every now and then and acknowledge myself and just how much I do and have done, for us to be living this fortunate life! It’s been too long since I’ve really celebrated and embodied this side of it all…

Lately I have been a little bogged down in the ‘unfairness’ of it all. Why do I have to do everything, why doesn’t my daughters Dad actually help more, connect more, support more? Why doesn’t the rest of my daughters family contribute more to her up-bringing, why is everyone OK with it all being my responsibility, especially in the face of all that has happened this year. How can they still see it as ALL my job, instead of our job, just because I am female? Or just because I am the responsible one? That line of thinking only leads to resentment and frustration, I know, I’ve been there many times over the last 11 years and you know what? Letting myself stay with this thinking doesn’t actually effect anyone else except me, I am the only one who suffers! And that is the beauty of my recent celebration, it only came through because I chose to stop thinking about what others could be doing to ease my burden and reframed it, to acknowledge just how incredible I am, for doing it all! 

So – Yay for me! Usually I wouldn’t share these kinds of moments, because they seem really ego driven, or arrogant, or like I am blowing my own horn but then I thought, this is the moment, this is where my sharing gives others permission to celebrate their greatness too!

Which leads me to my request, I would love to hear from others, on just how grateful and proud they are of themselves as well! Come on, let’s share the self-love today! It’ll just be between you and me…

In Beauty 
☾Shekinah Leigh ~ Honouring the Feminine
“Sacred Feminine Practitioner”

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How You Can Heal Yourself!

Healer quote bannerDid you know that only you can heal yourself?

It doesn’t matter what supplements you take, or what therapies you experience, if you don’t believe in them, if you don’t feel your own capacity to heal, than nothing can change.

That is why it is so important to follow your own YES, when it comes to well-being and why so many people, once they find a therapist who they resonate with, continue to see that person, throughout their healing journey.


“We hold the space, use techniques and unblock pathways, so that YOU can do the real work!”


Your therapist does matter, you already know this and some will resonate for you during different parts of your life. They don’t heal you but they may have the tools you need to access your own well-being, they may be the perfect person for you to project your inner healer onto…

This is one of the reasons why I love my home clients so much! I know that I can trust that those I see at the health retreat are meant to see me as a part of their healing journey, however at home I get to form long-lasting relationships with my clients. We get to go deeper, to get clearer and to mindfully approach our treatments with more connection and understanding.

The transformations that I have seen take place, during my years as a therapist, are incredible and each and every time it is YOU that allows it, it is YOU that is ready for more!

So when you feel shifts occurring in your life, when you realise that you have let go of something un-needed, or when you have moved further onto your path with heart, know that even though I am a happy and willing participant, holding space for you in your journey, it is you that attracted me into your life, it is you that knew this therapy would be of benefit and it is YOU that chooses to heal!

Sending you all so much love and gratitude, for being in my life and trusting me to be what you need in the moment…

In Beauty & Integrity
☾Shekinah Leigh ~ Honouring the Feminine
“Sacred Feminine Practitioner”


Treatments available for you -
Feminine Massage
Sacred Deep Release
Ultimate Body Harmony
Pregnancy Massage
Post Natal Massage
Sacred Soul Journey (2 Therapists)