Daily I see and feel the objectification and abuse of the feminine. DAILY! Whether it’s through magazines, billboards, TV, movies or through conversations. “They” constantly and consistently meet out violence, neglect, shame, double standards and lies. Most often it is perpetrated by men and I have to be truthful and say, it is very hard to stay open & loving towards the masculine in the face of this daily onslaught. I must ACTIVELY search out media that portrays women as strong, deserving, worthy, dignified, loving, sensual and sexual (in an empowering way). It is even harder to find media that portrays strong and respectful men, loving these women.
It is hard for me as a strong, intelligent, loving and sensitive woman to stay in my beauty filled naturalness when faced with these torments, some days impossibly hard. It is hard for me to stay open, loving and trusting with my man when I see men depicted daily abusing, torturing, hurting and disrespecting women, women they are supposed to love and cherish. If it is hard for me, how hard must it be for a young, developing, open and sensitive girl to face these same things?
I have tried to live in a bubble – not see it, hear it, feel it but it is IMPOSSIBLE to interact and be a functioning part of society, whilst living this way, long term.
Throughout most of my teenage and adult years I have grown up in a society that accepts more and more abuse of the feminine and of women in general. Look at how many women have been murdered through domestic violence in Australia this year (and that’s just the deaths), or go and pay for petrol to be confronted by shelves of objectified women, or turn on the TV to see ads, shows and movies that trivialise and sexualise women into nothingness.
I don’t know how to bring a girl child up in this environment. My behaviours, actions, words and conversations can only go so far in neutralizing what she consciously and unconsciously sees, hears and feels daily. Sometimes I am bereft at the thought of how she will grow up to think of herself, with this plethora of unnatural role models surrounding her. I am saddened that her first romantic or sexual encounter, will be flavoured by unrealistic and harmful ideals, that have been created through the consumption of disrespectful or abusive pornography.
In this moment I feel my heart and soul BLEED for all the women and girls. Especially those that are being abused, hurt and disrespected right now! And now and NOW…
Too many of us stay silent through the pain, anger and humiliation of what we see, hear and feel daily. Told it doesn’t matter, that it’s not important, that we are too sensitive, to get over it, forget it, stay open through it, love through it, TRUST through it, be grateful it’s not happening to us (this time). I am tired of being made to feel like there is something WRONG with me because it makes me feel sick, disappointed, hurt and ANGRY!
I am angry and I have every right to be, people should be called out on this shit every time it presents itself. I’m tired of not being able to watch anything entertaining because of the constant abuse towards women that gets depicted. Is this really a clear reflection of our society??? Do our partners, brothers, fathers and sons REALLY believe that this is an appropriate form of entertainment for themselves and for their daughters, sisters, partners, mothers and grandmothers? Really?
It feels so good to not be shamed into SILENCE and acceptance anymore. I say ENOUGH! My wrath and potent Kali rage has been activated! I am fully committed to destroying this false image of the feminine!
and so it is…thank you x